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Couples Corner
FIRST NIGHT AWAY FROM BABY
By Kristyn Kusek
After weeks of round-the-clock feedings and diaper changes, you new
moms and dads deserve a night out! But your first evening away from
baby can be more nerve-racking than stress-reducing. Here's how to ease the separation anxiety for you and baby:
- Find a sitter who's been there, done that
"Leave your
baby with somebody who has infant experience, whether it's a good
friend or your mother," says Mimi Doe, founder of
SpiritualParenting and author of Busy But Balanced (St. Martin's Griffin). "You'll be more confident than if you left your baby with the teenager next door."
- Familiarize your baby with the sitter before you leave them alone
"Your
baby won't have to work hard to communicate her needs if the sitter
knows how to read her signals," explains Janis Keyser, coauthor of Becoming the Parent You Want to Be (Broadway).
Set up at least two "play dates" to show your sitter your routine --
for instance, where he/she should sit during feedings or the
particulars of baby's bedtime ritual.
- Plan an easy night out
Don't make your first date
night a black tie event, says Doe. Pick something quick and close to
home that's flexible in case anxiety gets the best of you, such as a
casual dinner and a movie close to home. This way it won't be a big
deal if you have to leave either place mid-way through.
- Instruct your sitter as to what makes you feel at ease
Don't
be embarrassed if you leave a mile-long list of phone numbers that
includes your pediatrician, poison control, your neighbor, and an aunt
who lives three states away. Says Keyser, "You should leave whatever
information and instructions make you feel safest." Explain to the
sitter that you're overdoing it to put your own worries to rest, not
because you don't have faith in her abilities.
- Say goodbye to baby
Don't slide out the back door to
avoid facing a crying infant when you say goodbye. "It will just make
your baby over vigilant, always keeping an eye on you to find out when
you're going to disappear again," says Keyser. To ease the transition,
you might have the sitter arrive a half-hour before you plan to leave
so that your baby and the sitter have a chance to get comfortable with
each other.
- Prepare your other little ones If you have toddlers,
they could take your date night harder than your new baby. Explains
Doe, "Remember that the last time you went out, you were gone for two
or more days and then came back with a baby." Reassure young children
that you will only be gone for a little while -- and that you aren't
bringing another infant home.
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About The Author
Kristyn Kusek is a regular contributor to Your Baby Today. She's also written for Redbook, Good Housekeeping, Parenting, The New York Times, and Lifetime TV Online.
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